There are many ways to gain confidence singing for other people. Watch this video and your confidence will start growing!
There was once a condemned prisoner who was thrust into the Roman coliseum to face dozens of ferocious lions. As the starving lions drew near for the tasty meal the prisoner spoke calmly to them and suddenly the lions scattered and disappeared. The emperor released him, believing the gods had protected him. When his friends and family greeted him they asked: what did you say to the lions that caused them to run away so terrified?
Said the crafty prisoner: I simply said that after the meal they would be required to sing a solo for the audience.
How many of us feel this same terror as we contemplate singing for an audience? There are many reasons we might feel scared, nervous or frightened to sing for someone.
Gain Confidence Singing – Two Reasons You Might be Nervous Singing for Other People
Let’s talk about two reasons today.
1. We lack confidence in our knowledge of how to sing. I’m not going to spend a lot of time on this one. All of us lack knowledge about singing and performing. Even the very best singers are continually learning, growing and improving. You must begin someplace so begin by searching through Power to Sing. A great place to begin is by understanding your vocal type and then identifying vocal exercises designed for you. Getting knowledge and skill will have a huge positive impact on your confidence.
However, I’ve taught many singers who sing really well but still lacked confidence singing for others. Why? They didn’t like their own voices and they didn’t think anyone else would either. This leads to the next reason for lacking confidence.
2. We’re afraid people won’t like our voices…won’t like the way we sound. This is a problem with how we think. You will continue to lack confidence in your voice unless you change your thoughts.
I was always worried about what people were thinking about my voice. One day I said to someone: “I really like Barbra Streisand’s voice.” And she responded, “Oh, I don’t like her voice at all!”
Oh my gosh! How can anyone say they don’t like Barbra Streisand’s voice? She’s one of the best singers that’s ever lived!
But then I realized something that’s changed the way I think about my singing and my voice and it will change your thinking too.
Not Everyone Will Like Your Voice!
If everyone doesn’t like Barbra Streisand’s voice, why would I think that everyone should like mine? Even if we are not talking about singing, do you truthfully like everyone equally? Aren’t there some personalities that bother you just a little? Isn’t that Life? Don’t we all have opinions for and against people, positions, politics, etc? Why in the world would I think that everyone is going to like me? Or like my singing voice?
I began to realize that normal reality is something like this: If I’m singing for 500 people, which I do frequently in theater, it’s likely that about 100 people in the audience are going to say, “I love Chuck’s Voice!” Another 100 are going to say, “It’s an Ok voice.” Another 100 will say, “I can take it or leave it.” Another 100 are going to say, “He’s not really my favorite.” And the last 100 are going to say, “I wish I wasn’t here tonight!” THAT’S OK!!! THAT’S LIFE!!!
Most People don’t Like the Greatest Voices
You can be the greatest singer in the world and most of the world won’t like your voice. Not everyone likes Pavarotti, Josh Groban, Barbra Streisand, Stevie Wonder, Michael Jackson, Bing Crosby, Frank Sinatra, Johnny Cash, Madonna, Lady Ga Ga and…you get the idea.
Lady Ga Ga has 43.5 million followers on Twitter (as of this writing). This represents about 14% of the population of the USA and about .6% of the population of the world. That’s not very much. Not everyone likes her voice or her music. But I doubt that Lady Ga Ga spends too much time obsessing about people not liking her voice. She only needs a small percentage of people to have a tremendous following and sell lots of music!
Someone will Love Your Voice
It’s ok that not everyone likes your voice. That’s Life! But someone will like your voice…in fact, someone will love your voice! Those are the people for whom you are singing. Have confidence singing for them!
Video Mashup of Singing Stars
Just for fun, here’s a short video mashup [Watch Here] of singers who’ve made a career of singing, who have loyal fans who buy their songs, but whose voices I personally don’t think are “world class” (my opinion). Sorry if one of them is a favorite. The point is, start loving your unique voice and sound. You can get many fans who love your voice!
Here’s the Video Mashup of 20 Singers http://youtu.be/mxQ73lUZ2Fs